Life has a special taste for men and women who are out chasing their dreams.
As much fun as the pursuit can be, it’s impossible to avoid the roadblocks that leap out in front of you.
What you believe about yourself ultimately dictates the moves you make or don’t make toward getting what you want.
A successful mindset means practising good mental hygiene. <—- Tweet THIS!
It means observing yourself and becoming aware of limiting beliefs so that you can replace them with empowering ones.
What is a limiting belief? A limiting belief is a false belief that a person acquires as a result of making an incorrect conclusion about something in life.
For example, a person could acquire a limiting belief about their ability to succeed as soon as they experience a slight failure or before they even attempt to try something new.
- I don’t have time.
Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. If you’re struggling to set aside time for your goals then you’ll want to review your priorities and time management skills, or enlist the support of family and friends if you’re overwhelmed by family obligations.
2. I don’t know where to start.
Always remember that goals guide decisions, so start by clarifying what you want and what you’re willing to do to get it. During this brainstorming process you’ll naturally identify the steps that are needed to begin.
You don’t have to have all the facts or be ready to start. It’s more important to take some form of action, since this gets your momentum and confidence going, both of which are critical for any new venture.
3. I don’t deserve [money, recognition, success]
This belief is often associated with low self-esteem or past events that cause individuals to question their worthiness.
Truth be told, one of the noblest pursuits of being human is reaching your full potential, so align yourself with that thought and believe that not only do your deserve success – it is, in fact, your duty!
Set aside some time envision what you’ll do once you accomplish your dreams, who you’ll help, and the kind of person you’ll become. Let those thoughts empower you. You may also consider consulting with someone you trust, a life coach, or even a counselor. Don’t be embarrassed to reach out for help – your life’s work depends on it.
4. Why would anybody listen to/buy from/hire me?
If you’ve ever had a job or a client in your life, then clearly you have value to offer. Each of us is born with unique abilities and talents, yet it’s up to us to find and use them. No two people will paint alike, sell alike, or write alike, and the world needs a variety of flavors and personalities.
Practice cultivating confidence by discovering what you can confidently and unquestionably offer others. Once you figure out what that is, go out and practice, which will increase your confidence even more!
5. If I succeed, then I won’t be able to sustain it
Swing your partner, round and round! Swing her up, swing her down— oh, sorry, I saw you dancing around in circles and I thought you might need some music.
The “if, then” and “what if” scenarios are the waltzes of death for your success mindset. You can imagine any number of things that might happen, and most of them will be false. To ease your mind, consider the worst case scenario: if you succeeded, and then lost your success, could you go in with life? If the answer is yes, then the chance is worth taking.
6. I don’t have the skills
Imagine being old and gray, seated on your rocking chair. Your granddaughter comes to you for advice about pursuing a dream or a goal. She asks what dreams you accomplished in your own lifetime.
Do you really want your excuse to be a lack of skills? If we fail, let us fail for a great reason. Not for laziness and unwillingness to take advantage of the immense training and educational opportunities afforded to us by modern technology.
7. I’ll never be creative/analytical/mathematical/good at selling enough to be an entrepreneur
If this is the perception that you have of yourself, then the first piece of work is re-programming your mind.
An entrepreneurial mindset operates on the belief that skills can be acquired and hired.
Throughout history countless great entrepreneurs have generated success not because they possess every talent necessary, but because they work incredibly hard utilizing their strengths and enlist support to make up for their weaknesses.
8. The people who are successful in this are out of my league
It must be pretty neat to be born with your diaper bulging with million dollar bills!
In the history of mankind no hospital has ever delivered a rich, business-savvy babe.
Every business starts as a baby.
You can’t birth a grown adult.
The reality is that everyone starts somewhere, and you’d be surprised at the number of successful people who are glad to speak to and mentor others who are on the journey.
Chances are that someone mentored them, too.
Don’t let perceptions of others success stop you in your tracks.
9. The only way to success is to go to college, get a degree, and work your way up the corporate ladder
Try telling that to Celine Dion’s late husband, who mortgaged his own home to finance her first record when she was only a teenager. Or to Bill Gates as he fixed computers out of his garage before Microsoft changed the world.
In fact, 20% of the world’s millionaires don’t have a college degree (i.e. millions upon millions of millionaires!)
10. I don’t have the connections
Connections are like skills – they are sharpened and discovered as you drive down life’s roads. Thinking that you can’t connect to other humans is equivalent to slashing your own tires.
Consider that the more you understand your own value and can communicate and share that value, the worthier you’ll become to other people. Then attracting the connections you desire will become much easier.
Networking and meeting other positive minded dream chasers is an important piece of the puzzle.
11. I’m not tech savvy
This is good news, because as an entrepreneur it’s not your job to be tech savvy. It’s your job to find problems to solve and manage the best processes and people for solving them, as we mentioned in point 7.
Your success depends on building a team of strong links and reaching out for help – then you’ll have all the skills you need.
Remind yourself continuously that what you’re thinking and feeling in any given moment will dictate the experiences you attract later.
As you work to replace negative thinking don’t underestimate the power of building a positive network.
Cultivating beliefs that empower you is easier when you’re around others who value the same. This will bring you closer to living the life you dream of and deserve.
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